Thoughts from a spiritual warrior, a metaphysician and generally accepted all-around nice guy, though perhaps considered by some to be a slightly off-the-wall Bohemian. Terry Drew Karanen is an author, keynote speaker, counselor/life coach and blogger.
Thursday, August 21, 2014
Have You Arrived?
How do you know when you’ve “arrived?” What
I’m asking is, How do you know when you’ve accomplished what you set out to
accomplish, or that you have the life you want?
With some things, like taking a plane from
one city to another, you know exactly when you’ve arrived. The aircraft stops,
you get off the plane and you go about your business. But life is not always
that cut and dry.
I suggest to you that too often we wait to do
what we want to do, or experience what we desire to accomplish, because we are waiting
for some power outside ourselves. We delay our joy and happiness by making the
assumption that to achieve our goals we must
go through a pre-determined set of mile markers. For example, “I can’t get a
good job until I get my bachelors, masters or doctoral degree.” Therefore, no
job or career, until the achievement of one or all of those goals, will ever be
good enough to be “good.”
Here’s how I started thinking about this last
week. As you may or may not know I’m in the process of completely re-designing
my ministry and how I serve others. There are, of course, some components I
will keep that have worked well for me and benefited those whom I have served
over the past two decades. But other projects and opportunities I have in mind are
brand new areas for me, a few using cutting-edge technology which I have yet to
I’ll be 60 next year. I actually started
thinking that with this new ministry I’ll be able to enjoy the life I want in
another ten or twenty years. I got stuck for a moment in the shoulda/couldas. (NOTE: Please read the rest of this paragraph with a
whiny voice.) “I shoulda done this twenty years ago. I coulda moved forward
before now. Now because I delayed I won’t be able to enjoy the life I want for
WRONG! I know exactly what kind of life I
want to have and – drum roll – are you ready? – I’m already living it! There
isn’t anything I’ll be doing in twenty years that I don’t already do now. We
have this idea in the U.S. that we have to work a long time to create the life
we want and, in the back of our minds, feel like we might be too old or too
feeble to enjoy it once we get there. Here’s a quote I love to remind myself of
The world knows you in terms of your history,
but the universe knows you in terms of how you
are knowing yourself at this present moment.
Michael Hyatt writes an amazing blog. This
week his topic is, “Why Retirement is a Dirty Word.” I re-tweeted a quote from
him that speaks directly to what I’m writing about here: “If you’re doing meaningful work you enjoy,
why would you ever want to quit?” This is exactly
how I’m living my life, helping others to have the life they envision for themselves
– not twenty or thirty years from today, but starting right now.
Let go of the past! Forget about what was and
concentrate on what “is.” We do not have to wait for anything to enjoy the life
we desire. We are only a thought away from changing our attitude and our
outlook by simply changing our perception of what’s happening in front of our
What has to happen before you will have the
life you want? Do you feel something stands in the way of your happiness or a
change needs to occur before you can be satisfied? Would you be willing to ask
yourself if that is really true? We human beings are spectacular at convincing
ourselves of what we can’t have. The magical answer to obtaining our desires is
that we can just as well convince ourselves that we can have the life we want.
The universe is here to lovingly and rapidly
rush to our aid. It is conspiring to give us what we want. The key is that we
have to be willing to allow this to happen. What are you waiting for? Go for